Why you shouldn’t have sex on the first date
The Romans had imposed a brutal custom in some of their provinces called prima nocte and it was not about Athens escorts. In short the perfect “was obliged” to have sex with the bride on her first wedding night instead of the doctor.
Tragic, miserable, and inhumane. Fortunately, many years have passed since then and the only thing that reminds me of this practice (barely and not in a bad way) is the firm belief of men that they must score from the first date.
And yet the answer to this may be “NO” after all. Or at least “not necessarily”.
The theory falls apart
The Dating Nerd writing in our cousin, the American Marino Salvo, boldly declares that things are not as we thought for so long. At least that’s his view, and he strongly supports it.
But let’s go and see what he tells us. It is a given that for us men, having sex on the first date is a permanent tactic, a reward, and often a pursuit.
Yes, OK, for us it’s simple. But women , on the other hand, have to turn on their scanners: since they can’t be sure (never) if we’re being honest with them or we’ve just bombarded them with big words and we’ll be smoked at the first opportunity. Or for that matter after sex on the first date.
If, now, some girl wants to have sex with you – while you haven’t even tried – from the first date, what’s the harm? Nowhere. Simply in this case the situation is a win-win for you, if you are not really interested you can enjoy it since maybe that is what she wants too – and nothing more.
But if you want something more than that, it might be worth waiting. Wait. Don’t shout and don’t bother. Pay some attention to what Dating Nerd has to say.
It is known that the best phase in a relationship is the first time. The “honey” that is. Those weeks when you are both in seventh heaven. Which plays a little (or a lot) of mystery. And the best way to extend this phase is to wait. And make her wait a little longer too. Of course, we don’t mean to let the situation drag on for many dates, since there is a risk that he will think of you as “goodnights”.
So this is a different approach to the first date. And we’re not saying it’s the only approach, but a trick to scoring little extra points in the eyes of the one you like. And extend the “honey” a little longer.